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in reply to Sarah Brown

It’s tragic enough to watch the Debbie Haytons of this world debase and humiliate themselves in front of the minions of Rupert Murdoch in the hope they’ll be thrown half a chicken bone, but to see people doing the same, “the other trans women are bad and icky, but I at least understand the nature of my own vileness, so I’m better than them, please accept this unworthy worm” to people with no actual chicken bones to throw is plumbing new depths in the “for the love of god, analyse your internalised transphobia, grow a backbone, and get some fucking self respect” stakes.

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OOF.
this was me for WAAAAAY too long... that's been starting to change slowly but ever so surely lately...
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that cringe feeling inside means that i'm actually starting to grow ☺️
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@Moria K. Drake 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 To be fair, I used to get suckered in by the same bullshit.

The main reason for my “for fuck’s sake” attitude is that I transitioned 20 years ago and have seen this play out multiple times before.

It’s a fool me once, shame on you, kind of situation.

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@Moria K. Drake 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 The stakes feel higher. And there are more of us now.

But this exact same shit happened on LiveJournal in the trans communities in 2008. Like, exactly the fucking same.

in reply to Sarah Brown

@Moria K. Drake 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 that was the one that taught me that for all their “mean girls” cliquey shit, the ones paying respectability politics really have very little recourse if you just tell them, and everybody buzzing round them like flies round a turd, to go fuck themselves.

Sure, they’ll tell everyone who listens for years afterwards that you are “problematic”, but most people will either realise they’re full of shit, or just nod politely and go back to what they were previously thinking about.

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@Sarah Brown @Moria K. Drake 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 Having you as a friend while transitioning made me more cynical sooner, and honestly in the present climate that’s probably protective.
in reply to Sarah Brown

Something I've seen a lot of recently too is people who came out in the past 5-7 years making authoritative statements on what things were like years before they transitioned, and just kind of freezing those of us who were there out of the conversation, telling us that we have it wrong, etc. Plus people will post that we don't even exist within the community and it's so sad that we've all died or woodworked.

IDK it just feels like the hostility to existing as an openly trans woman for longer than say a decade (and often much less) is geared toward pushing us out of that visibility.