Often it’s so so easy for us to go into the place of “what’s wrong with me?”, but if you genuinely cannot figure out what you are doing wrong (you’re not being mean, you’re not hurting them in any way):

It genuinely might not be you, it might be them.

If you can notice that you’re resisting doing a particular task, you can start questioning, get into the curiosity mode of, “What is it about this task that I’m having an issue with?”

Nearly all #autists of my age are #undiagnosed!

#Autism
#ADHD
#AuDHD
#neurodiversity

https://www.kcl.ac.uk/news/up-to-90-of-middle-aged-and-older-autistic-adults-are-undiagnosed-in-the-uk-new-review-finds

[Found on BlueSky]

Oops.

Wear the Mark, by Dean DiMarzo, aka longestsoloever

A song about masking, inspired by the character Gangle from The Amazing Digital Circus. Released shortly after episode 4. The lyrics are incredible.

"Another day, another show with no rehearsal"
"Hard to say what remains when I stumble off the stage. Does the one behind the role still have a face?"

https://youtu.be/2e6r4LC3eHQ

Let’s be frank: Parental guidance and control is where the ‘Social media ban’ should start and end.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-12-01/social-media-ban-benefits-parents/104664692
#AusPol #Liberalism #FreedomOfInformation #FreedomToAssociate #Discrimination #LGBTQIA #Disability #Neurodiversity

Bring your whole self to work.

(Not you.)

The wellness industry tells us what health should look like, but whose wellness does it really serve?
In my latest piece, I explore how we can reclaim wellness on our own terms, outside of commercialised ideals.

Read here: https://www.davidgrayhammond.co.uk/p/reclaiming-wellness-from-the-wellness

#Neurodiversity #Wellbeing #CommunityCare #MentalHealth #ReclaimingWellness @actuallyautistic @mentalhealth

Sometimes, with certain things, I need a little more help in the implementation or help seeing aspects of my own situation that I have a hard time seeing for myself, because I’m so enmeshed in it, and an outside perspective helps.

For many of us, life is framed as a series of leaps; from one demand to the next, from one task to another. But for monotropic minds, those leaps can feel like fractures.

In my latest piece, Tanya Adkin and I explore lilipadding as a philosophy of living: a way of sustaining continuity, flow, and belonging, even in the face of burnout.

https://emergentdivergence.com/2025/08/25/living-between-lilipads-a-philosophy-for-neurodivergent-thriving-part-1/

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy #ActuallyAutistic #lilpadding #neurodiversity

𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐞 — fairy-tales fabricated by thugs, to convince themselves that the person(s) they've decided to hurt, deserve it.

#NTs seems obsessed with #blame, but they tell me it's *me* who is obsessed with blame. I *think* they're wrong...?

Any thoughts?

#Autism
#ADHD
#AuDHD
#neurodiversity

How to manage the overwhelmingly big goal of making things better:
https://youtu.be/ky_4n2nudN8

I'm so conflicted about this #JohnGreen video, because on one hand, I think there should be more videos on the best way to handle common human interactions.

However, on the other hand, this only reinforces my fear that every time I send a socially-obligated message to someone, they are thinking critically about its quality and being insulted if it does not stack up to the other missives received.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WBuqnQO27Dk

Turn off your notifications, configure & automate Do Not Disturb, utilise apps that discourage phone staring, write, read, breathe, don’t drink coffee, alcohol, vape or smoke after 2pm. Minimise emails. Get at least 8 hours sleep. Put things away. Stop watching news as much; be selective, manage hype. Vote. Create space for your mind & physical health. Touch grass, get your hands in soil, listen.

Unless you’re sharing your identity discovery process with the people as you’re going through it, they don’t have that processing time to themselves, quietly in their own head, to come to terms with that.

So the first thing out of their mouth is often an unintentionally insulting ‘rough draft’, if you will, of the process that they may be willing to go through, but they haven’t gone through it yet.

For many of us, life is framed as a series of leaps; from one demand to the next, from one task to another. But for monotropic minds, those leaps can feel like fractures.

In my latest piece, Tanya Adkin and I explore lilipadding as a philosophy of living: a way of sustaining continuity, flow, and belonging, even in the face of burnout.

https://emergentdivergence.com/2025/08/25/living-between-lilipads-a-philosophy-for-neurodivergent-thriving-part-1/

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy #ActuallyAutistic #lilpadding #neurodiversity

it's the #dopamine right? not exactly...

"... that there is evidence for the involvement of dopamine but limited evidence for a hypo-dopaminergic state per se as a key component of ADHD."

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11604610/

Here's the video of my August 6th Q&A on autism and psychedelics, hosted by the lovely folks at the OPEN Foundation.

#psychedelics #psychedelictherapy #psychedelicscience #psychedelicresearch #autism #consciousness #autistic #cognition #transformation #humanpotential #autismawareness #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #neuroqueer #psychology #psychotherapy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6_PkplcGFU

It helps my fears and insecurities to relax when I put something out into the world and it doesn’t ruin everything.